A Mistress By Any Other Name Is Not The Same

A Mistress By Any Other Name Is Not The Same

I have had quite a few inquiries as to why I use the title Domina. And though I have many reasons I felt it important to briefly touch on this topic. This may also keep those seeking a ProDomme from making quick assumptions about general protocol in addressing a dominant female.

Mistress began as a respectable enough title. One gained prestige when they became the Mistress of the house or the woman in charge. The title gained momentum when Dominant Females took it on as a mark of influence and strength. It also took on negative connotations when anyone wishing influence, or the air of importance, began using it. With the title being thrown around so loosely by anyone who chose to bear it, a new generation of Mistresses were born. Those who did no research and knew little or nothing of D & S, B & D, or S & M were now associating with a title they claimed undeservingly. Of course, one can never forget the implications of being ‘the other woman’ in reference to this title. Throughout history this title has been used in a multitude of ways. These days it is little more than interchangeable with the word woman.

Who uses the title Mistress? Many ProDommes who know their art extremely well and many more who know very little of BDSM and fetishes. Also, those who hire themselves out as, or willingly choose to be, ‘the other woman’ and have nothing to do with BDSM. Many who visit ProDommes are not aware the title itself has become fetishized and is synonymous with someone who is a fantasy provider. Most Dommes use this to their advantage as an instant means of self-entitled power.

Goddess is also a fairly common title used. As most are aware of the origins of this title, I can quickly go on to it’s current BDSM meaning and use. Most Goddess title bearers are one of two things:
1). Female Supremacists who use the title as a means to belittle or humiliate the inferior male.
2). Those who are in touch with their personal deity archetype.
These women tend toward the vast torments of worship and humiliation, yet there are many who enjoy a large variety of other things as well. There is no noteworthy difference between the titles Queen or Princess and Goddess.

Madam is a formal mode of address in speaking to an elderly woman.
Ma’am is a contraction of madam.
Though I look forward to gray hair, wrinkles, and crone-hood, I think anyone would find these terms inappropriate, for obvious reasons, when used in reference to a young woman.
Domina strictly translated means lady and is the feminine form of Dominus; meaning ‘a master of a house,’ ‘high one’ or lord. Also commonly used as the title of respect for a nun held in extremely high regard. Who could resist the obvious blasphemous implications here? Of course, I take perverse joy in being addressed with a constant reminder of the vast history behind the word.

I use this title because it is appropriate to my demeanor and presentation. It is also a title that was given to me as a form of respect, as I found it fitting, I chose to keep it. Finally, and most importantly, I use this title to keep an ongoing conscious bridge to those I connect with. I prefer to take part in intensive interactions that promote mental stimulation and keeps the supplicant present and aware of my guidance. At those times, I prefer to keep an individual mentally engaged with me as opposed to them resorting to an ingrained title as a means of disconnect.
In this way they are connecting with me as an individual and not a fetishized title. By forcing one to think about their words they are more likely to be sincere in what they chose to say. Therefore, as someone who is not a ‘fantasy provider’ but, a fantasy creator I enjoy a title more appropriate and better suited to who I am. Furthermore, I take pride in using a title that I have rightfully earned.

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