A Mistress By Any Other Name Is Not The Same
I have had quite a few inquiries as to why I use the title Domina. And though I have many reasons I felt it important to briefly touch on this topic. This may also keep those seeking a ProDomme from making quick assumptions about general protocol in addressing a Dominant Female.
Mistress began as a respectable enough title. One
gained prestige when they became the Mistress of the house or the woman in
charge. The title gained momentum when Dominant Females took it on as a
mark of influence and strength. It also took on negative connotations
when anyone wishing influence, or the air of importance, began using it.
With the title being thrown around so loosely by anyone who chose to bear it, a
new generation of Mistresses were born. Those who did no research and knew
little or nothing of D & S, B & D, or S & M were now
associating with a title they claimed undeservingly. Of course, one can
never forget the implications of being 'the other woman' in reference to this
title. Throughout history this title has been used in a multitude of
ways. These days it is little more than interchangeable with the word
woman.
Who uses the title Mistress? Many ProDommes who know their art extremely
well and many more who know very little of BDSM and fetishes. Also,
those who hire themselves out as, or willingly choose to be, 'the other woman'
and have nothing to do with BDSM. Very few who live the BDSM lifestyle use
this title. In my personal experience, and in those of my friends and
acquaintances, there is a rarity of using this or any title. Those in the
BDSM lifestyle usually forego the formalities of such titles. There is a
simple reason for the lack of using titles. Many who visit ProDommes are
not aware the title itself has become fetishized and is synonymous with the
ProDomme who is a fantasy provider. So, most ProDommes have to exert more
verbal control to ingrain a certain amount of respect in their clients.
Lifestylers do not need this formality as a submissive or slave is so fully
aware of their position that respect or submission is never in question.
When a title is used in this instance it is merely out of respect and at the
discretion of the Dom.
Goddess is also a fairly common title used. As
most are aware of the origins of this title, I can quickly go on to it's current BDSM meaning and use. Most Goddess title bearers are one of two
things:
1). Female Supremacists who use the title as a means to
belittle or humiliate the inferior male.
2). Those who are in
touch with their personal deity archetype.
These women tend toward the vast torments of worship and humiliation, yet there
are many who enjoy a large variety of other things as well. There is no
noteworthy difference between the titles Queen or Princess and Goddess.