As a ProDomme I receive many interesting e-mails and phone calls. One of the most common mistakes I find is the assumption that I will accept every individual who contacts me for a session. Considering that every Domme specializes in areas of their own interest it’s odd to think someone would expect anyone to accept every appointment.
 

One terrific way to find out is to read their website. But the best way is, of course, to ask. I have always enjoyed someone respectful, responsive and open-minded. I thoroughly enjoy masochists, explorers and servants. I love the submissive who purely finds satisfaction in the act of serving me in any capacity. I have a soft spot for those interested in on-going training relationships, as I believe there is more satisfaction found when there is a history of common experiences that can be built upon. And what turns me on the most is the intelligent submissive who can be mentally stimulating. With the largest erogenous zone in the body being the brain, it always makes it satisfying when someone is capable of engaging communication at the appropriate times. But what I find enjoyable may be completely opposite for someone else. Maybe another Domme is completely into corporeal sensation or just enjoys playing mommy.
 

Of course with any list of interests there will always be a list of limitations as well. It is always nice to find out what these might be when you contact someone.  I abhor the demanding submissive who comes to me with expectations.  Presenting me with a list of demands is the easiest way to find yourself turned away.  I do not enjoy those who are manipulative, passive aggressive, purposely disobey for punishment or “top from the bottom.” To elaborate on the latter, topping from the bottom is someone who likes to direct the dominant. I am not one who plays a ‘dominant role’ or likes a scripted scene. You should always make sure that the Dominant that you contact plays safely and has exceptional skills in your areas of interest and will respect your limits.
 

Some advice for those interested in specific acts is to find a Dominant with similar interests to you. If you are unsure of a Domme’s specialties then when you contact her be as specific with terms as you are capable. Tell her your experience, or lack thereof, then find out if these are things she enjoys. If they are, then inquire if she is interested in seeing you. Do not expect every Domme to play the same and have the same specialties. Do not call and demand or expect an appointment. Realize that she doesn’t know you any better than you know her and she may expect a more extensive application. Some Domme’s wish to know if you suit their interests, so it is best to keep in mind that this should be an enjoyable interaction for you both.